We all like to think we are in control of our own destiny, but is this true? Think of all the different factors that influence where we end up such as, our environment, upbringing, personal wealth, intelligence. When we take external factors into account, the idea that we are in control of our lives seems like a bit of a myth, does not it? Well actually not quite, for being in control means taking control.
One of the largest reasons that people feel out of control of their lives stems from the realism of their goal setting. If your goal is set to narrow, then your chances of failure are enhanced massively. For that reason alone, you need to think optimistically and realistically about your life goals.
Should your only dream be to be a premiership footballer, then you may end up as disappointed as so many youngsters do. Dreams are important, but must be counter balanced with honest self assessment. Think for a moment about a life goal – where do you see yourself in five years time? Perhaps you are thinking about being in a stage of a career? Or maybe you are seeing yourself traveling around the world? Whichever the case may be, your brain needs clear, precise instructions so its energy can be harnessed in the most productive way possible.
The process of taking control means getting a clear idea in your head about what exactly you want out of life, for only then can you deliver instructions.
For instance, saying you that you want 'more money' is not good enough because the brain struggles to interpret that vague type of instruction. You need to ask questions such as: How much money? And. For what purpose do I want this money? I know a successful entrepreneur who set himself a target of being a millionaire by the time he turned 27. I can happily report that he is well on the way to achieving this goal. For him, having this goal focused the mind on achieving it. In addition, along with living the high life, his purpose was to be able to provide for those he cared about. With these clear, precise instructions in mind, his brain worked with him and not against him.
Make sure you can quantify your goal, even if it does not involve making money. If your goal is about losing weight, ask yourself how many calories you plan on cutting out every day. Or if your goal is to spend more time with your family, specify how many hours you are looking to spend each week with them. Remember how your brain works and you will never fail.
When you start setting your own agenda, try to make your goal as attractive and as compelling for you as possible. Spend some time visualizing all of the attractive benefits that will come from achieving it. For instance, if your goal is to be healthier, think about how much better you are going to look and feel. The selected goal should have an emotional resonance with you because of another way the mind works.
You see, the way we remember things is based on emotional connections. Emotions burn memories in our brain in the way a lens focuses light through a camera. It is for that reason that sophisticated marketers use highly dynamic imagery when branding their products. Therefore, the goal you pick should matter to you on an emotional level. What memories, events, situations, can you draw upon to fuel your desire. Did a teacher ever tell you that you would amount to no good? Where you born into a displaced family that has made you determined to never be poor again?
It does not even have to be anything dramatic, for instance, your goal may be to earn enough to afford a new car, therefore, find a picture of the car that you can stick up on a wall or anywhere to remind you of what you are taking control about. If you do not find your goal appealing you can not get anywhere with it as an idea because you are not going to be motivated. You should, however, always bear in mind that your goal is realistic for you, and can be achieved in a reasonable time frame. Make sure that you get your goal to fit in around your other commitments.
Source by Jed McCall