In difficult or adverse situation how you manage your emotions and how best you use right strategies to arrive at right & acceptable solution is self-management. Building emotional strength and strong mental foundation to achieve nothing but the excellence, is the key to master self-management. How you perceive yourself and others in your life will also create big impact on self-management. In my experience and years of corporate training, out of observations & experience, I think following are the 10 Killer Self-Management Skills to Excel in Life and Career
How well you know about your own personality which includes strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation and emotions. What are your drivers for anger and inspiration, what frustrates you or embarrass you is Self-Awareness.
Aspirations to Grow
In difficult situation, searching for opportunity and preparing you to change, learn and grow for better results. This is the growth mind-set where you focus all your attention to improve yourself rather than blaming others. Smart people will always look to grab opportunities in difficult time.
We are human beings and we may tend to be negative, most of the time. At work or in personal life we always encounter frustration, anger, embarrassment which push us towards negative thinking. To overcome, one must think clearly, objectively and act accordingly to manage emotions.
Believing your abilities to achieve anything and knowing that all you need is within you is one part and the other is strong self-esteem, to love yourself is Self-confidence. In nutshell it is the belief in oneself and abilities, it describes an internal state made up of what we think and feel about ourselves. This state is changeable according to the situation we are currently in and our responses to events going on around us. It is not unusual to feel quite confident in some circumstances and less confident in others.
In challenging situations how you stay calm, balanced, logical and healthy is stress management. If you can manage your stress your productivity will increase enabling you to take new challenges and coming out with flying colours. Stress has direct impact on physical and emotional health and if you can equip yourself to handle stress and not bother your heart, probably you can manage to stay fit even in adverse situations. Today in corporate world to achieve success, you must manage stress better, no escape. It is the survival of the fittest.
Ability to Bounce-back
Failures and setbacks are part and parcel of life and particularly in corporate world. You ask any top executive, he will tell you about his failures and setbacks he must have encountered despite being doing nothing wrong. Putting everything behind and continue efforts to move onwards and upwards will make you resilient and bounce back every single time to every single time in life. Even competitors will appreciate this ability of yours.
Forgive & Forget
In a world when we are not perfect so, can we expect people around us to be perfect. We are all imperfect and sometimes things just happen out of anger, jealousy and competition. If we really want to move ahead in life we must learn to forgive people. But can you carry that emotional baggage with you for entire life and let your emotional health suffer, better forgive and forget to concentrate on better things in life and career. This commonly happens at workplace and we keep grudge on people, spoil work environment and our work suffers. So, better shake hands to forgive and forget. It will help you to focus your energy on your near and long-term career goals.
3Ps – Patience, Persistence and Perseverance
Moving steadfastly or firmly to achieve a particular goal in life with patience by bearing all provocations, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint or losing temper or irritation, is being patient and persistent. The perseverance is to target that goal despite of difficulties, obstacles and discouragement. All three are fundamental skills to succeed in corporate world, killer skills to have in tough times.
Understanding and giving attention to other people’s perspective and situation by sensing the unspoken cues is important today to know your own abilities in social and corporate situations. We are usually so engrossed in ourselves that we leave little or no room to understand others and fail to notice their actions and intentions. If you misinterpret this, you will encounter difficulty in dealing with people and will not even know why.
It is one of the most vital self-management skill to excel in corporate world. Everyone in this world has 24 hours, in a day, whether a CEO or a Worker. How well you plan you tasks, prioritize and map it against time is important.